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Wednesday, October 26, 2011

I Miss Dating...

It's Wednesday and that means I'm linking up with Shell at Things I Can't Say today. It is time to Pour Your Heart Out!



I bet I caught your attention if you are a regular reader of mine with the title of my post, didn't I?! As you all know, I am happily married to Chris. The only problem...I miss dating him!

Chris and I used to have the best dates. Not the dates in movies where the guy shows up with flowers (he rarely does that), champagne (I'm allergic) and/or chocolates (Hey, why didn't he bring me chocolates?! I love chocolates!!).

Chris and I could have fun in a grocery store and we did. We used to laugh as we walked down the aisles together trying to find food we both agreed on to eat for lunch, dinner, snack, dessert...you get the point...we didn't have the same tastes. We used to laugh so much that we annoyed some of the people that were there because they had to be to stock up for the week for their families. (I know, how dare we have fun grocery shopping). Side note...I am now one of those people who has to go to the grocery store. If I saw anyone like Chris and I back in the day...they would annoy me too!

Chris and I used to try all kinds of restaurants and take our time eating, drinking and enjoying the atmosphere. We enjoyed hearing each other talk. We laughed a lot. Our girls are very well behaved in restaurants but they don't want to treat it as an outing. They treat it as - food in -when can we get back to playing Littlest Pet Shop - seriously, are you done eating yet because we want to go play Littlest Pet Shop? And most of the conversation is consumed with what is going on with the girls or what our girls will actually eat on the menu.

Chris and I used to go hiking, rollerblading, walking, canoeing and camping. We still do most of those things (no rollerblading...I think you get teased if you still rollerblade...just kidding...our knees just can't take it anymore). Now, we just do them with our girls. Which is great, don't get me wrong. I'm happy our girls enjoy those things and that we are all healthy enough to do all of those things.


Chris on one of our camping trips in Denali National Park
in Alaska

The point of all of this is (and I am sure most if not all of you know where I am going with this) that I miss having my hubby all to myself. I miss doing things on our time. I miss doing things our way. I miss having 100% of his attention when he gets home from work and giving him 100% of mine.

I want to laugh in the grocery store again. I want to try new restaurants and stay until the wait staff are giving us the evil eye to get out so that they can go home. I want to hike and stop high up on a mountain and rest my head in Chris's lap and enjoy the views (not be in alert mode to see if one of the girls is about to fall off the mountain). I want to walk along the GW Parkway trail, hand in hand, with time to talk only about each other and not worry if our girls will get run down by one of the many people on their bikes. I want to canoe/kayak for several miles, side by side or in tandem, and not hear the girls complaining that they are hungry, thirsty and/or tired. I want to camp and snuggle up with Chris to stay warm and feel safe and not stress out if someone is going to slice open the side of our tent and steal our children in the night (it has happened, you know!).

I want to start those things that some of you already have. I believe they are called date nights. Have you heard of them? I miss dating my husband. After almost 11 years of marriage, I think it is time we made ourselves a priority again. If you have any tips on how to bring that special time back for us, I'd love to hear them.

By the way...Chris, I love you! Sme


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13 Comments:

At October 26, 2011 at 10:36 AM , Blogger Shell said...

Date nights are a must, girl! I hope you can find ways to make it work!

 
At October 26, 2011 at 11:07 AM , Blogger Carolyn said...

We've just started date nights again, but we have to work on - eating slower and not talking about the kids the ENTIRE time :)

 
At October 26, 2011 at 1:06 PM , Blogger Wendy said...

Hope you can find a way to make it work! Since we've found reliable babysitters, I feel like we are actually connecting again :)

Visiting from PYHO

 
At October 26, 2011 at 2:22 PM , Blogger Maren said...

I think you deserve a getaway of some sort. :D

 
At October 26, 2011 at 3:55 PM , Blogger Jon said...

I'd be happy to take the girls for a week in the summer if you think you and they would survive the separation!

 
At October 26, 2011 at 10:51 PM , Blogger jedawson said...

So true Kristen, As you know it took 8 years for me and jeff to get away last month...and only 4 days...but it rekindled so much from the rig - a- ma -roll of daily parenting. We have always committed to date night, only until recently moving. The post is a nice reflection of the connections we have with our spouse...despite it getting overshadowed by life....

 
At October 26, 2011 at 11:39 PM , Blogger Robbie K said...

We use to LOVE to grocery shop together too! WE would even meet at the grocery store during his dinner break so we could shop together.

 
At October 27, 2011 at 12:43 AM , Blogger Grumpy Grateful Mom said...

Oh, we haven't been good at dating lately either. We don't usually use babysitters, so most of our "dates" are a movie at home.

I've been trying to get my mom to retire so they can move closer and watch the kids for a week while my husband and I go to Hawaii. But, so far, no luck. :)

 
At October 27, 2011 at 9:19 PM , Blogger Adrienne said...

You should let him read this. SO sweet. I hope you get that date soon! hubs and I don't go enough either.

 
At October 29, 2011 at 10:43 PM , Anonymous Stephanie said...

I know exactly what you mean. My husband and I have regular weekends without the kids (I know, we are very lucky!) but we don't seem to do anything. We are on our computers and doing things with separate friends. We don't make just us a priority! Must get on that :)

 
At October 31, 2011 at 10:03 PM , Blogger llawlor said...

We ended up at the grocery store (fancy Whole Foods) after one of our dinners out on a date night! It was fun to shop together and so quiet:)

 
At December 18, 2011 at 9:24 PM , Anonymous double your dating said...

I think dating can heal that kind of dis-order.

 
At January 30, 2012 at 1:06 AM , Anonymous plentyoffish.com said...

You should find ways to have time for yourself and set up a date.

 

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